Is This Husband Being Unfair?
Nothing can start an argument like spending time with the in-laws.
Once a week on the Wakin' Up with CJ and Jess Show we fire up our email in box and pick out one email from a fellow Wolf listener that's looking for some help or advice with a problem they are dealing with. Anytime the email contains anything involving a mention of in-laws we always know it's going to get a bit heated and that's where we're at today. Our email came from a "Phil" a married guy in Kingston, who wrote us,
"My wife and I live about 2 hours away from both of our parents. Mine are in Long Island and hers are in Albany. We visit my family at least one weekend a month, and we always have a good time. We rarely visit my wife’s parents because my mother-in-law hates me. My wife was with a guy before me for like 5 years and when she left him for me, her mother hated her choice and never lets me forget it. Anytime we visit she’s always rude to me, and tells me how to parent our daughter. It’s beyond frustrating. I only get weekends off from work and I’d rather not spend any free time being disrespected by her mom. My wife thinks it’s unfair because we visit my family a lot more, but my family is nice to her. I tell her to go whenever she wants but she won’t go without me. Am I being unfair?"
Being divorced twice, I'm not sure if I'm the best person for advice here, but I think that "Phil's" wife needs to have an adult talk wit her mom about they way she treats her husband and tell her that if she doesn't try to be nicer they aren't going to visit anymore. Hopefully that would make things better. What do you guys think? Call or text us through the Wolf app.